How you handle this depends on what kind of relationship you have with your family, whether you still live with them, and how safe you feel with them.You might respectfully let them know that while you appreciate their feelings, you don’t agree with them.You might even want to ignore what they say and just shut them out or keep your relationship a secret from them.

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If you already have a relatively healthy relationship with your family members (in other words, you feel safe talking to them and aren’t worried about them becoming verbally or physically abusive), it could help to find out what their specific objections are to your partner/relationship. Do they not like the way your partner talks to you?

While the conversation might be difficult, it’s important to approach your family members as calmly and respectfully as possible. Do they think that your partner doesn’t respect you?

Would keeping your relationship a secret from your family make you feel good in the long run?

It might seem like the easiest solution, but remember: all healthy relationships are built on trust, respect and communication, and that includes your relationship with your family.

They may see some unhealthy behaviors in your partner that you don’t see. Ask your friends what they think about your partner. If so, take some time to consider whether or not any of your partner’s behaviors are warning signs.

You can always call, chat or text with a loveisrespect peer advocate if you need more help!

You could suggest that you all try spending more time together so they can get to know your partner better.

If your family members can’t offer any specific reasons why they don’t approve of your partner, or if they don’t like your partner’s race, religion, sexual orientation or appearance, then the situation gets a little stickier.

Disliking someone based on these factors is called prejudice, and that has more to do with your family members than your partner.

When you’re in a relationship, it may be important to you that your family gets along with your partner. It’s awesome when our partners can be involved in multiple areas of our lives and hang out with the other people we care about. What if your parents or other family members disapprove of your partner? It might make you feel terrible or torn between your family and your partner.

You might want to react defensively and maybe angrily toward your family if they tell you they don’t approve of your partner.