In fact: Attractiveness is the basis of all human relationships. Not only is attraction the basis of finding a romantic partner, but we are also attracted to work with certain people. We are even attracted to certain coffee shops because we like their vibe, their menu or their location.Attractiveness is an essential part of understanding what motivates people. If we get rid of social niceties and get down to the science, attraction happens in the first 30 seconds.Luckily, you are an intriguing, interesting, engaging person! Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher studied hundreds of couples in love and found that the human body knows within one second whether someone’s physically attractive or not.

She asked the participants to rate the teachers effectiveness.

Ambady then compared these ratings to the teachers’ end-of-semester evaluations from actual students.

Ambady wanted to test how accurate our first impressions are.

She videotaped 13 teachers and showed 30 second clips to participants.

Sometimes we act boring because we are afraid of being seen as “weird” or “different”. We don’t share how we really feel, we hide our quirks and try to fit in. In the non-dating world of attraction science, research shows we get a little bit more time to make a first impression, but not by much.

So we have the same the mind-numbingly boring social script of “What do you do? The scientific term for first impressions is , a coin termed by Nalini Ambady of Tufts University.

Being attractive is about more than just appearance.

Of course, we can be physically attracted to someone, but we are more often drawn to their confidence, passion and personality.

If you want to make people want you, if you want to be attractive, if you want to understand people, you need to learn: Our brains are like really hungry toddlers–they are easily bored and demand to be fed with entertaining nuggets. New York Times best-selling author and developmental molecular biologist, John Medina discovered that the brain has a very short attention span. And, as much as we don’t like to admit it, our brain decides if we are attracted to someone else almost instantly.

Our brains are attracted to intriguing, interesting, engaging people and things. Research shows we know if we want to sleep with someone in the first 30 seconds of meeting them.

The participants accurately predicted which teachers would be the most successful–from just 30 seconds of video. Research shows that a person’s most attractive trait is their availability.