I was 55-years-old, and yet my Christian upbringing still had a stranglehold on my sexuality.

One fascinating aspect of my work as a couples/ family therapist is that it gives me an intimate view into the current cultural dynamics of couples.

For the last twenty or so years, over half the couples I see contain the "nice guy" with his frustrated wife.

'Do you think God is punishing me for having sex with a man 20 years younger than me?

' This was the question I asked a close friend when I was about to file for bankruptcy back in 2011.

Yom Kippur, the Jewish holiday of repentance, had barely been over for 14 hours and I was already fighting with my husband. Over our poached kale and egg salads with a side of chickpeas I notice my firecracker friend is uncharacteristically glum.

Has my Teflon-coated mind not retained a single shred of serenity? When Peter died, the only thing that kept me sane was writing about grief. I recognized that by spewing out my emotions with honesty, I was helping others which meant it was work that made me satisfied.

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