You've been hanging out with this guy for a while and everything is great. I did all 10 of the things on this list, in all of my relationships. I was often accused by women of being a selfish, lying a**hole or a straight-up freak, and I was both of those things. The list is a compilation of everything I've learned about sex addiction in my own experience and treatment and from many other men in groups I've been part of. Maybe you're beginning to find out things about his sex life that he has tried to hide. What used to be charming or thrilling is starting to freak you out.You never know, though: He may be relieved to have it out in the open.

When you're together, there is often something forced, even fake, about how he relates to you.

Obviously, it focuses on heterosexual relationships, but these behaviors are common to LGBT sex addicts, too.

He's typically not where he says he is, but that may be just the beginning of the lies.

He may tell you he makes more money than he really does. He may tell you he's working late but then comes home smelling like booze.

The lies he tells might have nothing to do with sex, but the fact that he is a compulsive liar is itself a warning sign.

Maybe he has some "character flaws" (like being a narcissist), maybe he's super-attracted to someone else, maybe he no longer likes you and is on his way out.We sex addicts are generally filled with shame and self-hate, and are deceitful because we feel that if we are found out we will lose everything.So what do you do if your partner is exhibiting three or more (my estimate) of these signs? (Ending the relationship will still be an option in an hour or a day.) Don't assume the worst just yet. When I was confronted, I lied and continued lying, and tried to persuade my partner that she was full of shit.Most doctors would prescribe treatment to help your sex addict get his obsessions and compulsions under control. looking at cyber porn or jerks off eight times a day, he's dosing his brain with dopamine and other chemicals that excite, distract and otherwise cover up the underlying distress or emptiness he suffers from."The sex addict's impulse is to cover the pain of feeling damaged, whereas the opportunist's impulse is to take whatever he can get without having remorse.Sex addicts feel very guilty and ashamed of their behavior, and greedy individuals do not," said Joe Kort, a sexual addiction therapist and a doctor of sexology.To qualify as sex addiction, the cheating has to be pretty much nonstop. At my worst, I was carrying on three or four relationships at once outside of my primary one.